Platform Basics
Custom Service Request Help
Custom Service Requests let you describe a specific vibe, time, or mix of options not shown on the public menu—using neutral language. They plug into Paramour’s normal booking flow and keep the provider fully in control.
Applies to: Escort Service, Private Sex, Kink & Fetish, Adult Media Talent, Erotic Show & Performance, Booth Babes & Promotion, Care & Companionship
Quick answer
A Custom Service Request lets a client describe a desired atmosphere, timing, location, duration, and optional extras—without explicit wording—when those details are not already listed on a provider’s Service Menu. It begins as a Booking Request, opens a Negotiation for clarity and safety, and may be converted by the provider into a Proposal with clear terms (time, location, boundaries, pricing, screening, and deadlines). Only after the client accepts a Proposal does it become a confirmed Booking. Providers remain in control throughout and may clarify, adjust, or decline.
Overview
A Custom Service Request is a clear, discreet way to describe what you have in mind—such as the vibe, location context, duration, and optional extras—without graphic detail. It starts as a Booking Request and may move into Negotiation for clarity and safety. If it’s a match, the provider can send a Proposal that sets the date, time, duration, region or venue parameters, boundaries, pricing (including any prep or travel surcharges), screening needs, cancellation terms, and a reply deadline. Providers may accept, revise, or decline at their discretion.
Structured, Discreet Asking
Explain what you want in neutral words—no explicit lists, less guesswork.
- Describe atmosphere, timing, and location context
- Choose outfits/extras from provider options
- Offer a budget range if helpful
Provider-Led Clarity
Negotiation protects boundaries and turns interest into clear terms—or a polite decline.
- Providers check fit, safety, and logistics
- Clarifying questions reduce ambiguity
- Proposals include itemized terms and deadlines
Privacy and Safety First
Keep early details in-platform and complete verification if asked.
- No pressure for instant confirmation
- Screening supports trust, not surveillance
- Blocking/reporting tools address unsafe behavior
Common questions
Use a custom request when you want a specific vibe, combination, or format not already shown on the provider’s Service Menu—such as a theme, venue type, timing nuance, or listed extras in a particular combination.
Give neutral context (atmosphere, timing, duration, region/venue type, outfit from listed options, optional extras, accessibility) and avoid graphic detail. Short, clear, and discreet is best.
Yes—choose from the provider’s listed outfits or presentation options and describe the theme in neutral language. The provider decides what they can offer.
You can suggest a region or venue type. The provider may accept, adjust, or decline based on logistics, safety, and boundaries. Travel or access surcharges may apply.
Pricing is provider-controlled. A Proposal will show the total price and any surcharges for preparation or travel. Only an accepted Proposal confirms the booking.
Verification may be requested by the provider. It supports trust and safety and should be completed in-platform using the provider’s stated method.
A decline simply means it isn’t a fit. You can adjust your request or consider other providers. If there’s no response, availability may have changed—try a new time window or a clearer request.
Yes. Update your message with revised details or withdraw the request in-platform. If a Proposal exists, check its deadlines and any cancellation terms.
Deposits may be discussed if enabled and appropriate in your region. If used, terms should be stated clearly in the Proposal. Do not assume specific payment flows.
Final thoughts
Custom means clarified, not unlimited. Use neutral wording, respect boundaries, and let Negotiation shape clear terms. Providers remain in control; clients can expect a calm, step-by-step path from Request to Proposal to Booking.
Read next
- How Negotiations Work (For Clients)
- Outfits and Optional Extras (Booking Process)
- How Provider Onboarding Works (For Providers)
- How to Accept, Decline, or Approve Bookings (For Providers)
- How to Activate and Deactivate Billboards (For Providers)
