Notification and Message Help
Messaging on Paramour is private, structured, and built for trust. Every conversation lives inside a Negotiation that starts with a Booking Request—never open DMs. You control notifications, timing, and boundaries.
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Quick answer
Messaging on Paramour is scoped to a single provider–client Negotiation that starts with a Booking Request. You’ll receive discreet in‑app notifications (and optional email or push) for key updates like new messages, Proposals, and booking changes. Providers set the pace, can use Quiet Hours, and can block or report when needed. Personal contact details are not shared by default.
Overview
Paramour links messages to booking steps so both sides can talk clearly without turning the platform into an open chat app. Notifications use neutral wording with adjustable previews. Quiet Hours and Do Not Disturb help with focus and time zones. Safety tools and verification signals support healthier interactions while keeping personal details private until you choose to share them.
Discreet, configurable notifications
Stay informed without revealing details or creating noise.
- In‑app by default; optional email or push alerts
- Neutral wording with optional preview controls
- Quiet Hours and time‑zone–aware reminders
Structured, scoped messaging
Conversations stay within a single provider–client context.
- Messaging begins with a Booking Request
- Negotiations hold messages and Proposals
- Threads can be open, paused, or closed
Provider‑first safety controls
Set boundaries confidently and keep contact appropriate.
- Block or report as needed
- Keep personal details private on‑platform
- Verification and moderation support safer exchanges
How notifications work
What triggers alerts, where you can receive them, and how to keep them discreet.
- Triggers: New Booking Requests, messages in active Negotiations, Proposals shared/updated, booking accepted/declined/changed, relevant availability changes, trust/verification checkpoints, and outcomes of blocking/reporting (where privacy‑safe).
- Channels: In‑app notifications by default; optional, discreet email alerts; optional push where supported. SMS is not used by default and should only be enabled if clearly supported in your settings.
- Discretion features: Neutral subject lines and notification text, configurable preview visibility, Quiet Hours and Do Not Disturb, and time‑zone‑aware reminders where relevant.
Message flow and safety tools
Where messages live, how threads behave, and how to protect your boundaries.
- Scope: Messages live inside a Negotiation opened by a Booking Request. There is no general inbox for cold DMs.
- Status: Unread indicators and last‑active timestamps may be available. Threads can be open, paused, or closed.
- Read receipts: May be limited or not shown to preserve discretion.
- Attachments and translation: Messaging is text‑first; any allowed attachments are optional and may be safety‑reviewed. Translation help may be available for clarity.
- Closing and archiving: Threads close when a booking finalizes, is declined, or times out. Closed threads remain viewable; new messaging requires reopening or a new request.
- Safety: You can report concerning content, block to prevent further contact, and rely on verification signals and moderation to reduce impersonation, spam, and unsafe behavior.
Common questions
Open your account or app settings and adjust notification channels (in‑app, email, push where available), preview visibility, and Quiet Hours/Do Not Disturb. Changes apply to future alerts and do not delete past messages.
Quiet Hours and Do Not Disturb pause alerts during times you choose. Messages still arrive and can be viewed later; you just won’t be notified until Quiet Hours end.
Email alerts are optional. Check that email notifications are enabled, your address is verified, and that messages aren’t in spam. Some updates may be in‑app only depending on your settings and region.
Yes. You can hide or limit previews in notification settings so alerts stay neutral without revealing message content.
Go to your Messages or Bookings area and filter for active Negotiations. Each thread is scoped to a single provider–client context opened by a Booking Request.
No. Messaging is linked to Booking Requests to keep communication focused and consent‑aware. Submit a Booking Request to start a conversation.
To preserve discretion, read receipts may be limited or not shown. Use thread status and notifications rather than exact read indicators.
From the thread options, choose Block to prevent further contact or Report to flag unsafe content. Blocking is a boundary tool, not a punishment. Reports are reviewed to support community safety.
Final thoughts
A Booking Request starts a conversation; a Booking confirms an agreement. Providers always control replies, boundaries, and timing. Clear, respectful messaging keeps negotiations efficient, private, and safe.
Read next
- How to Accept, Decline, or Approve Bookings (For Providers)
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- How AI-assisted provider onboarding works (For Providers)
- AI-assisted service descriptions for providers (Ai Features)
